TOGETHER IN CONSULTATION
TO A SUSTAINABLE SOLUTION
Divorce brings with it enormous and often intense emotions. Perhaps one of you is "not ready yet" and you feel overwhelmed by the other's decision. Or the other person doesn't want it even though you've told him or her a hundred times. How do you deal with these emotions and keep it cool and your communication ongoing? Very often, major interests are at stake: children, finances, division of common property such as a house. How should you proceed? How will you proceed financially? And the most important question of all: how do you make sure that you keep talking to each other in a decent way when you have children together? Because they also need to be able to move on! That is the time to think about mediation.
The word sustainable appears with great regularity in the media and then we usually think of our planet and the environment. But there is also such a thing as sustainable divorce. That is to say: divorce in a way in which all parties involved have been able to express and process their emotions about the divorce. Where the parents remain in constructive dialogue with each other, as fellow parents, and listen to each other and have an eye and ear for each other's ideas about the children. In which the children, despite the grief over their parents' divorce, can move freely and not end up in an uninvited fight between their parents. Where everyone can truly move on, in all areas. In short: a divorce in which everyone leaves each other in peace, despite the pain and sorrow. Agreements are kept and observed, instead of having to litigate against each other again and again. A lasting settlement!
People who choose mediation choose in the first place to remain in control of the solution of their problem, in terms of time, in terms of planning and in terms of the content of the solution. During mediation, the emotions surrounding the stranded relationship are given space and attention and an attempt is made to gain insight into each other's drives, motives and feelings. If this is successful, a solid foundation is often laid to start talking to each other about everything that needs to be settled. Everyone is completely free to speak without later being "caught" on his/her own words. If you reach an agreement, everything is recorded in a parenting plan and a covenant. Then the case is completed by filing the documents with the court. This usually completes the case in an entirely administrative manner, without you having to go to court yourself. I can guide you through the complex process of divorce in this way.
Since I am a lawyer-mediator, I have to provide the parties with proper legal information on all matters to be settled. This is what the profession of lawyer entails. So the attorney-mediator does not just sit back and write down indiscriminately what the parties want, but provides proper information at the highest level. This ensures that documents such as the covenant are not only legally correct, but also drafted in such a way that the chances of later conflicts are greatly reduced. Since I am therefore also a lawyer, I can also handle all formalities such as the divorce proceedings myself in the event of a divorce. All this gives me as a lawyer-mediator a clear advantage over the others. Every lawyer-mediator is also guaranteed to be academically educated; this is certainly not the case with the numerous divorce bureaus and brokers on the market. Arranging a divorce properly is customized and professional work. It is also decisive for a new happy future. Don't sell yourself short by dealing with agencies with stunt prices. The cost of a good lawyer-mediator is not the real price tag of divorce. A divorce for only €750.00 and then a lot of financial woes is really expensive. Don't be pennywise and pound-foolish.
No stressful proceedings with uncertain outcomes, which take a long time, are often very expensive, and can also lead to new struggles and even proceedings in the future, but doing it yourself, with the help of and under the intensive and expert guidance of a specialist. That is mediation that can lead to a lasting settlement.
The word sustainable appears with great regularity in the media and then we usually think of our planet and the environment. But there is also such a thing as sustainable divorce. That is to say: divorce in a way in which all parties involved have been able to express and process their emotions about the divorce. Where the parents remain in constructive dialogue with each other, as fellow parents, and listen to each other and have an eye and ear for each other's ideas about the children. In which the children, despite the grief over their parents' divorce, can move freely and not end up in an uninvited fight between their parents. Where everyone can truly move on, in all areas. In short: a divorce in which everyone leaves each other in peace, despite the pain and sorrow. Agreements are kept and observed, instead of having to litigate against each other again and again. A lasting settlement!
People who choose mediation choose in the first place to remain in control of the solution of their problem, in terms of time, in terms of planning and in terms of the content of the solution. During mediation, the emotions surrounding the stranded relationship are given space and attention and an attempt is made to gain insight into each other's drives, motives and feelings. If this is successful, a solid foundation is often laid to start talking to each other about everything that needs to be settled. Everyone is completely free to speak without later being "caught" on his/her own words. If you reach an agreement, everything is recorded in a parenting plan and a covenant. Then the case is completed by filing the documents with the court. This usually completes the case in an entirely administrative manner, without you having to go to court yourself. I can guide you through the complex process of divorce in this way.
Since I am a lawyer-mediator, I have to provide the parties with proper legal information on all matters to be settled. This is what the profession of lawyer entails. So the attorney-mediator does not just sit back and write down indiscriminately what the parties want, but provides proper information at the highest level. This ensures that documents such as the covenant are not only legally correct, but also drafted in such a way that the chances of later conflicts are greatly reduced. Since I am therefore also a lawyer, I can also handle all formalities such as the divorce proceedings myself in the event of a divorce. All this gives me as a lawyer-mediator a clear advantage over the others. Every lawyer-mediator is also guaranteed to be academically educated; this is certainly not the case with the numerous divorce bureaus and brokers on the market. Arranging a divorce properly is customized and professional work. It is also decisive for a new happy future. Don't sell yourself short by dealing with agencies with stunt prices. The cost of a good lawyer-mediator is not the real price tag of divorce. A divorce for only €750.00 and then a lot of financial woes is really expensive. Don't be pennywise and pound-foolish.
No stressful proceedings with uncertain outcomes, which take a long time, are often very expensive, and can also lead to new struggles and even proceedings in the future, but doing it yourself, with the help of and under the intensive and expert guidance of a specialist. That is mediation that can lead to a lasting settlement.