NOTHING OR NO ONE IS WORTH MORE TO YOU.
THEY MUST CONTINUE without having worries.
GET IT DONE.
With roughly 70,000 divorces each year (divorces and relationship breakdowns by unmarried cohabitants), more than 50,000 children in the Netherlands are confronted with the divorce of their parents. For them it is a drastic event that often means goodbye to the only life they knew until then: safe and familiar at home with mom and dad. The impact of divorce on children's lives should never be underestimated. They simply have a right to have their parents minimize the impact of divorce on their lives. Therefore, in most cases, the law requires parents getting divorced to draw up a parenting plan. This must describe in each case how they will continue to consult with each other and make decisions about the children after the divorce. In addition, it must include a properly described care arrangement as well as how the provision for the costs of raising and caring for the children is arranged. In principle, without a signed parenting plan, no divorce petition can be filed. If there is a fierce dispute that prevents the parents from drawing up a parenting plan first, the court can be asked to provide for those issues. But this must then be properly explained. Furthermore, the parents should involve their children in the parenting plan (to what extent and how does, of course, depend on the age and development of the child) and mention this in the parenting plan.
What do children cost and who will pay for it after the divorce? And what about student children? By law, parents are financially responsible for their children. At least until their 21st birthday, they have to contribute to their costs. But often you're not done with that, for example because your child is still studying a little longer. All this requires an accurate calculation and is often customized, which I am happy to help you with.
And what is a good care arrangement? There is no general answer to that. It is usually customized work that must be tailored to the situation at home and the capabilities of the parents. In one situation an equal division of care responsibilities (popularly called "co-parenting") is best, but sometimes that is not feasible. It is often possible to work with fixed days, but when one of the parents has irregular work (pilots, doctors, flight attendants), for example, a different model will have to be used. I have extensive experience with these issues and would be happy to advise you further.
Are you already divorced and a dispute about the children arises later? Even then the way of consultation is often the best way and mediation is an option. Sometimes the judge has to be involved. In both cases I can offer you help.