A good visitation arrangement is often customized. It used to be considered quite normal for the children to continue living with mother after the divorce and for father to have the children with him one weekend every two weeks. Nowadays this is considered outdated. Both parents should play a major and equal role in their children's lives. Typically, schedules are now used in which the care responsibilities are somewhat more divided. People often mistakenly call this co-parenting. However, this is not a legal term. Actually, you are always co-parents; you have to do it together. By the way, a division of care responsibilities must also be feasible. You may want to agree on 50-50, but is that practically feasible with work and other commitments. If it would lead to very complicated arrangements where the children constantly have to commute back and forth between two addresses with a heavy weekend bag, you have to ask yourself if that is in their best interest. Clarity and peace of mind for the children are the key words. It takes intensive consultation to reach a good solution.
A care arrangement is not only a right but also a duty. It is therefore the intention that both parents fulfill the agreements properly.
Make sure the children actually have two homes, where there are enough clothes, toiletries and toys and hobbies. And don't make it a point that clothes you bought for the child end up in the laundry basket and then the child's closet with the other parent. They are the child's things and not either of you. In the ideal situation, when you switch addresses, the child hardly needs to bring anything of his or her own. Thus, two houses become a real home for the children.
Admittedly: just think about it after an intense divorce period with many emotions. But it is possible, and fortunately there are plenty of examples. As a specialist in family law, I am happy to help you or yours through this process, as a lawyer or as a mediator, with good consultation as a starting point.
A care arrangement is not only a right but also a duty. It is therefore the intention that both parents fulfill the agreements properly.
Make sure the children actually have two homes, where there are enough clothes, toiletries and toys and hobbies. And don't make it a point that clothes you bought for the child end up in the laundry basket and then the child's closet with the other parent. They are the child's things and not either of you. In the ideal situation, when you switch addresses, the child hardly needs to bring anything of his or her own. Thus, two houses become a real home for the children.
Admittedly: just think about it after an intense divorce period with many emotions. But it is possible, and fortunately there are plenty of examples. As a specialist in family law, I am happy to help you or yours through this process, as a lawyer or as a mediator, with good consultation as a starting point.